Garter Belt Gal: A Note on Rejection- Let’s Talk about Texts Baby At some point in everyone’s lives, they will be rejected by the opposite sex.  There are many things ladies can say to gently let an incompatible suitor down: I’m too busy with my DAR meetings, we summer in different places, we went to rival Ivy League Universities, etc.  Gentlemen, it is your responsibility to respond to a polite rejection in a polite way.  You may think it unfair that you are responsible to act in a dignified manner, but that’s what separates the gentlemen from the boys. I recently found myself in the uncomfortable position of having to indicate to someone that perhaps the timing was not right for us to become involved, let us call him Mr. K.  His response to what I thought was a perfectly sweet let down? At first he didn’t understand, so there were a few more requests for dates (witty I may be, direct not so much).  Understanding finally sunk in, and instead of bowing out gracefully, I received a series of uncomfortable communications via text message. I was shocked when he not only indicated that he had been following my happenings on certain social networking sites, but that he thought it appropriate to use what he saw as ammunition to disprove my earlier statements of too many engagements to see him again.  I am sorry, Mr. K, if not all of the exclusive events I attend have a wall and comments section.  He may have tried to use the investigative and argumentative techniques of a barrister, but he certainly did not win his case. Rejection shouldn’t be a source of embarrassment, sometimes things just aren’t meant to be, but subsequent rudeness and hostility are cause for shame.  Mr. K and I may not have been a proper fit, but if he had acted respectably I may have introduced him to one of my lovely acquaintances.  I admit tone is hard to convey through electronic means, so err on the side of caution and think twice before you text. That is if you are textually active. Garter Belt Gal

Garter Belt Gal: A Note on Rejection- Let’s Talk about Texts Baby

At some point in everyone’s lives, they will be rejected by the opposite sex.  There are many things ladies can say to gently let an incompatible suitor down: I’m too busy with my DAR meetings, we summer in different places, we went to rival Ivy League Universities, etc.  Gentlemen, it is your responsibility to respond to a polite rejection in a polite way.  You may think it unfair that you are responsible to act in a dignified manner, but that’s what separates the gentlemen from the boys.

I recently found myself in the uncomfortable position of having to indicate to someone that perhaps the timing was not right for us to become involved, let us call him Mr. K.  His response to what I thought was a perfectly sweet let down?

At first he didn’t understand, so there were a few more requests for dates (witty I may be, direct not so much).  Understanding finally sunk in, and instead of bowing out gracefully, I received a series of uncomfortable communications via text message.

I was shocked when he not only indicated that he had been following my happenings on certain social networking sites, but that he thought it appropriate to use what he saw as ammunition to disprove my earlier statements of too many engagements to see him again.  I am sorry, Mr. K, if not all of the exclusive events I attend have a wall and comments section.  He may have tried to use the investigative and argumentative techniques of a barrister, but he certainly did not win his case.

Rejection shouldn’t be a source of embarrassment, sometimes things just aren’t meant to be, but subsequent rudeness and hostility are cause for shame.  Mr. K and I may not have been a proper fit, but if he had acted respectably I may have introduced him to one of my lovely acquaintances.  I admit tone is hard to convey through electronic means, so err on the side of caution and think twice before you text.

That is if you are textually active.

Garter Belt Gal